The new craze is to recycle and “Go Green” with everything, but should you recycle your relationships?
Think about it for a minute. You sort your trash by type and may even have separate recyclable containers in your apartment or condo. You meticulously sort paper, aluminum, newspaper, glass, plastic, etc. Sometimes you are even so particular about your recycling that you look at the bottom of a container to see what number is there so you place it in the proper recycle bin. You are savvy and want to earn your Recycling Rewards, so you make sure that the Philadelphia Recycling Reward sticker is attached to the bin(s).
For some, recycling is quick and easy, while for others, it is a laborious task. I’ve seen people at Whole Foods with that deer in the headlights look just staring at all the different containers to place trash in, while others have moved effortlessly and swiftly discarding their items.
I guess the most consistent thing about recycling is that you have used something, and you discard it once you are done with it. You would never even think about reaching back into the recycle bin to take something out to use again unless maybe it accidentally fell in there.
Now, let’s talk about relationships.
You’ve been dating someone for a while, and at some point one of you decide that it just isn’t working. You have the “talk”, the relationship isn’t working, and now the relationship is over. You are really putting someone out in the recycle bin so that they can be picked up and move on to the next relationship aka be recycled.
We all know that it isn’t easy to go out and meet someone that we find suitable to date. For someone in their 30’s or over, it’s safe to say they became available because they ended up in the recycle bin.
Just like the recyclables at Whole Foods, the recycled merchandise is processed and turned into a shiny, new item for someone new to experience. While with a relationship, that person has been released back into the universe to evolve and have a new experience with someone new.
I’m sure you know someone who recycles trash religiously and someone who never recycles.
In relationships, just as there are people who break up and move on, there are also people who break up only to get back together again, a form of recycling.
Before you broke up, you got to know the other person. You know what you like and don’t like about them. You ended the relationship because there was some issue that the two of you couldn’t resolve, so you placed them out for recycling.
You put an old coke can in the recycle bin after you are through with it. Would you reach in and use it again? I doubt it.
You put an ex out in the recycle bin after you are through with him/her. Like the coke can, that person is the same person that was placed in the recycle bin. Nothing has changed. The coke can is still a coke can and your ex is the same person you dated. Nothing has changed. Should you get back together (recycle) or go out and find someone new?
What do you think?