The Bible forbids pre-marital sex. So, what happens when a person becomes a Christian after having had pre-marital sex? Does it mean that she or he is not accepted by God?
God forgives the act of pre-marital sex just as He forgives all sins when a person repents of those sins. Can a person become a virgin again after repentance? As hard as it is to believe, yes a person can have a “second virginity”!
When this subject came up in a single’s workshop a few years ago facilitated by Rev. M. Minnicks in Richmond, Virginia she explained it to the satisfaction of the workshop participants that included both male and females from various Richmond churches including Trinity Baptist Church, Third Street AME Church, New Bridge Baptist Church and the Richmond Christian Center.
Rev. Minnicks was emphatic when she said, “You can lose your physical virginity only once. If it happened, it happened and there is nothing to revoke it. You can NEVER become a physical virgin again. However, spiritually, it is quite possible to experience a “second virginity.”
She further explained, “When a person accepts Jesus as his Savior and Lord, his past is not destroyed; however, his spiritual rebirth transforms the past. God can take a person’s past and transform it into something entirely different.”
In order to establish a “second virginity” a person must repent for his or her physical acts in the past and do not return to them. This doesn’t make them a virgin in the physical sense, but because they have been forgiven and purified by God, they are virgins in His eyes. As far as God is concerned, they are experiencing a “second virginity” in the spiritual sense.
Workshop participants were reminded to repent for every pre-marital act even if they are now married to the partner who they once had pre-marital sex with. This type of repentance will make sexual acts within the marriage more enjoyable.
Months after the workshop was over, many participants said God was reminding them of all those they had had pre-marital sex with; even one-night stands. They are now rejoicing in their “second virginity.”
These are the exact words from Renee who attended the workshop.
“What stuck with me was that although the hymen which contains the blood covenant was destroyed PRIOR to marriage, the blood of Jesus provides a new blood covenant which gives the woman a “second virginity.” Old things have passed away and behold all things are made new. We asked the Lord to forgive us for EACH sexual encounter outside of marriage. We wrote down every name we could think of and called them out one by one in prayer. For those names we could not think of we were to write down circumstances surrounding the incident. We also were instructed to ask the Holy Spirit to bring back to our remembrance any pre-marital sexual encounter that we had ever had. Some asked the question: “Why name each one since God knows who they were?” The naming was not for God but for us. It promotes a cleansing of our “soul ties” and reverses the curse that had been placed over our single lives.”
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