Zen, if dissecting deeper, is a Japanese form of the Chinese word, Chan, and actually a form of Buddhism, sometimes better translated as a meditative state. However, for the sake of ‘Zen-ful’ ways to dating happiness, it is best defined as the attainment of enlightenment.
In all aspects of life, Zen plays an important function (regardless of religious belief) as without enlightenment, and calmness—there is usually an imbalance. Such imbalances can sometimes develop into things like unhappiness, which can inhibit progress—which can eventually trickle into your dating life.
Zen is, in short, a way to find calm in the center of a storm. Zen is also a subject where deliberate and sometimes irrational statements are sometimes made that are meant to arouse the intellect, such as with the Zen Proverb, “Knock on the sky and listen to the sound.”
Although Zen may certainly fall under the class of a gift, Zen isn’t something that can necessarily be given to someone. It can however be obtained, or found—within.
So for those who might be looking for a little more Zen in their dating life, or just in life in general—a few Examiners have offered to share their top Zen fav’s, as well as what makes them happiest, for the Top 20 Zen-ful ways to dating happiness (with a few extras):
“Going on vacation; hot sex; DPF flowers; getting away for a night in a hotel; and an invite out to dinner.” –Mike Banta, Santa Clara
“White chocolate mochas at Starbucks; smiling babies; and making fun memories with friends and family.“ –Karen Spencer, San Jose
“Swinging on the swings; writing; playing with Avery; baths; laying in bed listening to music; and sleeping.” –Kristina C., Sparks, NV
“A slurpee on a really hot day; and a hand-written note or hand-made card from someone that cares about you melts me a little.” –Robert Webber, San Jose
- A phone call or text from someone you care about.
- My favorite home-baked cookies or pie.
- When I make someone else a gift and leave it on their doorstep as a surprise (ring the bell; run to hide—then wait to see the look of surprise and excitement).
- When the one I love makes dinner for me (even if they can’t cook, they ask me to help).
- Make a care package for when you can’t be there, or if your honey is going away on a trip.
- When someone buys me movie tickets for no reason. (Even cuter: when they hope I invite them).
- Babysit; house or apartment sit; pet sit—for that someone special. Or just sit—with them.
- When someone lists the things they love about me, and then they give it to me with green M&M’s.
- I like getting back or shoulder rubs for no reason. And giving them, too.
- I got surprised at work one time, with a wonderful picnic lunch—he took me to the park around the corner; it was so romantic and sweet. That made me happy.
- Angel Face roses.
Is there someone you know–twisted or not–who might have a yen for a Zen-ful? Share this article with them and brighten their day.
Good luck in your dating ventures and for goodness sakes, don’t take life too seriously, smile and have some fun.
“We cannot see our reflection in running water, it is only in still waters that we can see.” –Taoist Proverb.
“When the pupil is ready, a teacher will appear.” –Zen Proverb.
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