When a man calls a woman after a date to see if she made it home safely it is sweet—if it is done out of sincerity—not just because he feels he has to. A man should do that, but dating etiquette has gotten so confusing over the years that it’s no wonder some men have asked for the 411 on the follow-up phone call.
These are just some subtle reminders that may help, and as always are not meant to be the tell-all, just help the men in today’s dating world—as sort of a guide.
The rules haven’t changed for meeting a suitable partner. And if you realize you’re more likely to meet someone worth dating in grocery store or online than you are a dive bar—you’re already one step ahead of hope. In this article, for the guys who made it to the first date—here’s how to get to the second:
• Don’t leave your date “wondering” and never leave a date open-ended – There are a few issues with this one. 1) Don’t leave your date wondering if you had a good time; by the end of the evening you should tell her you had a good time (and if she did, she’ll reciprocate). 2) Tell her you’ll call her, and then follow through. And when you do call her, and plan your next date—leaving a date open-ended usually means a list of things I don’t even want to entertain here—so don’t stall. If you stall too long, she may be long gone.
• Call your date to insure she’s home safely, or to tell her you had a great time – Don’t wait three days before calling her (who came up with that silly waiting game anyway?) Call or text your date not only the night she gets home, assuming you met somewhere for your first date (to make sure she gets home safely—calling always scores major bonus points), but call her the next day to tell her you had a great time and would like to see her again. Follow-up is the most important thing to a first date. Hopefully it’s not perceived as ‘stalking’ as some women need to be deprogrammed as well; however I realize this whole calling thing may be difficult for commitment-phobes, but you don’t have to talk for more than a minute or two, and shouldn’t. This is planning ahead, not making a commitment or a form of stalking. It’s just being polite.
• Follow-through on that phone call – This is a classic mistake on so many guys’ part, they forget to call on that follow-up day to make a date—they get busy, work gets in the way, grandma gets sick, the cat chokes on a fur ball, whatever. But guys, I can’t stress enough, make that phone call and set another date—it’s only a few minutes out of your day and it ensures you’re in her good graces. Women won’t wait around for long, but they are more loyal than you think if they know you’re interested.
Remember, mystery is good—but not when you leave a date wondering for days, or even weeks. Who ever said leave a date hang for days or weeks on end was simply walking that 5150 line, or is still just not getting it—call that date to follow-up; let that date know you’re interested, if you stand a chance on getting to date two.
As always, the best of luck in your dating ventures and for goodness sakes, don’t take life too seriously, smile and have some fun.
“The maxims of men disclose their hearts.”–French Proverb
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