In this ‘Success in Dating’ series we’ve talked about foundations and what it takes, not only to find a date, but how to also be an attractive person and there are a lot of attractive people around Lexington, KY.
There’s one last key that brings it all together and makes it happen.
You have to have an attractive personality.
Question: What is the number one thing people say they are looking for in a relationship?
Answer: Fun. Everyone wants to have fun with their partner. I don’t think that’s a big surprise.
So you’re standing in front of your private ‘mirror of truth’ naked, and you have to ask yourself… am I a fun person to be around?
Question: What does fun mean?
Answer: Fun means different things to different people.
To be fun you have to know what YOU like. You’re probably passionate about a few things and there are probably 50 things that you enjoy doing.
Write them down.
There are probably a few things you hate passionately and another 50 things you just don’t like.
Write those down too.
Let’s say that you love Keeneland and Horse racing, in all its forms. You love to talk about it, you watch it on TV and you like talking to other people who love horse racing too. Endless possibilities!
If you dated someone who loved horse racing as much as you do, how much fun would that be? Would you have anything to talk about?
Now let’s imagine you dating someone who absolutely hates Horse racing. They think it cruelty to animals.
That person will never have fun hearing, watching, or talking anything about Keeneland and racing. In fact to them, you are not a fun person at all.
Do you see what we’re talking about here?
Some people love to sit around and watch TV. Some people love to go to movies. Some people love to travel, or read, or garden etc.
It doesn’t matter.
Find the person who’s passionate about the same things you are and you are going to be fun fun fun.
Now, no one is going to like exactly the same things you do (unless you are really lucky!) but, if you find someone with the same passions and are open to trying some of their ‘likes’ along the way, it’s gonna be fun and you’re going to be appreciated.
Once again, the secret is knowing who you are and what you want. Don’t try to change yourself or accept someone who doesn’t have a lot in common with you.
We automatically want to be liked and accepted, especially by an attractive person, so we try to adapt ourselves so they will like us.
Don’t do it!
Opposites may attract, but eventually you’ll learn to loath those very differences you were once attracted to. You can count on it.
This is what leads to the feeling of not really knowing your partner after you get married and the honeymoon’s over.
If you need a review, go back to the beginning and start again. ‘Success in dating begins with taking a look in the mirror’
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