Love knows no boundaries. Apparently, neither does bullying. As an adolescent in Mark Brown’s DVD, Stop Bullying! (Stand Up for Yourself and Others) quoted, “You’re supposed to be what everyone else wants you to be-when you’re not, that’s when you start getting bullied.”. In other words, bullying tends to occur due to obstacles in expectation. Ideally, being “different” would be highly valuable. Unfortunately, it tends not to be in our society and it encourages picking on people who are “different” from us or live in a world which is very alien to our own.
As Brown quoted, “Bullies usually pick on someone they think they can push around or someone they can make feel bad…But mostly, bullies pick on other kids because deep inside, they feel bad about themselves in some way.”. Especially metaphysics teaches that we tend to project aspects of our own “shadows” onto other people and judge them accordingly. Inside, as the human race, we are all one and that includes being connected to our flaws. By nature, almost none of us likes this. As a result, when we are confronted with this head-on in another human being in a way we can‘t escape from, we tend not to handle it very well.
Brown further suggests that a few reasons for bullying may be that they believe that it’s a way to become popular, to get what they want, sometimes they come from abusive homes and have been conditioned to believe that it‘s normal. Especially when the first and second are the case, in the long run, they may come to believe that constantly putting others down and criticizing in a destructive way will help them to succeed in the real world. Some of them even become perpetrators of abuse to their significant others and/or their children.
Some suggested bullying prevention classroom activities based on Stop Bullying!:
- Develop a code of conduct against bullying with students’ input.
2. Be immediate, consistent and non-violent with consequences.
3. *Be sure to recognize and praise supportive behavior when observed.
4. *Value tolerance of and acceptance of difference between races, sexes and abilities. 5. Teach what sort of criticism to accept, problem-solving skills and ideal assertiveness. 6. *Be sure to model respectful and supportive behaviors.
7. Include less popular children in small, socially accepting groups.
*=especially likely to be very effective
A positive adult role model is what every child needs.