My daughter did not get potty trained until a couple of months ago, at 2 1/2. I started trying to get her trained before she turned 2. It can get frustrating! I had my son potty trained by 2 and started him at 18 months. BUT it is always on THEIR TIME, not ours, no matter how badly we want it!
I think the most frustrating part about trying to get my daughter potty trained was that she started going in the potty (#s 1 and 2) before she turned 2. She regressed, though; it was the worst! She, around 2, started to refuse to sit on the potty at all. :(
I have a potty downstairs in the downstairs bathroom and one upstairs in our upstairs bathroom. I keep a nightlight on in the downstairs bathroom when she’s awake since there’s no natural light in there. I make sure the potty’s accessible at all times. My daughter prefers the little potties, and I can see why the big potties would be uncomfortable for our little toddlers. Also, I have a portable potty seat (for the top of the full-sized toilets) that I carried around, but my daughter likes when I put tissue or seat covers down in public restrooms.
My daughter seemed to hate being pressured. I went through at least 2 or 3 packages of pull-ups because she wet them with no second thoughts. Inconsistency doesn’t help either; like, my husband often wouldn’t put her on the potty when I wasn’t around (we’ll just say he “forgot”) or like when I forgot some days.
1. I bribed her (may have been my best weapon yet). I offered her fruit snacks if she went to the potty. First, she got a treat for just sitting on the potty, then she stopped getting treats for just sitting (after a couple of weeks) but got a treat for tinkling or pooping. When she tinkled and refused to poop, I stopped giving her treats for tinkling (after a few weeks) but gave her treats for pooping. I have stopped giving her treats for going to the potty now and now reward her for good behavior, etc. Be prepared for some resistance, but I just kept patiently explaining what the new reason for treats was from week to week and explained that she was such a big girl and ___, so now she gets treats for ___.
2. I purchased her a potty book that flushes. She wanted to read it everyday. And Elmo has a potty DVD that she enjoyed.
3. I put her in “big girl” underwear. She really liked the idea of that. You have to call it “big girl” underwear! And everytime she wet or messed them up, I calmly explained that she can’t mess up her big girl undies. She really had a fit about potentially not being able to wear them. She messed them up several times before she got it. And it was very frustrating having to clean the underwear sometimes. But patience is key, and she/he will get it!
4. I asked her to go the potty at least three times per evening (I work full-time) and asked her teachers to start putting her on the potty every hour. Your daughter’s teachers/school, by the way, cannot tell you when to potty train! The turning point was really when her teachers started working with her and when she graduated to the class in which they really potty train and saw her friends going to the potty.
She still wouldn’t poop in the potty! It had been at least 9 months since she’d pooed in the potty, and one day she just did. And I gave her all of the fruit snacks she wanted for it!
Remember… it will happen on her/his time! And it will likely take longer if you pressure her or scold her/him! Exposure helps, not so much books for you, but books and DVDs for her/him.