Blind first dates can turn reasonable women into Nervous Nellies, and those jitters can cause a person to accidentally spew crazy thoughts, thus destroying her chance at a second date.
The following is a guide on what not to do/say on a first date or in the initial stage of a relationship.
Phrase one: “Oh, you like cats, too? Let me show you Fluffy’s pictures on my phone!”
It doesn’t matter if he says he likes cats. If he has just met you, he doesn’t want to hear about all the things Fluffy did today. He’d like to learn more about you, and he’d like to see if you have more going on than just having a pet. However, just to note, this phrase is not a deal breaker, unless of course, you actually don’t have anything going on besides having a pet.
Synonymous unsexy activities: making him watch YouTube clips of Fluffy sleeping, emailing him several photos of Fluffy from different angles, showing him slides of Fluffy in the homemade poncho you made for him out of your underwear
Phrase two: “I see myself getting married in the next year.”
It is not the fact that you are looking for “The One” that is scary. It is the fact that you have set a definite timeline for yourself, which makes your date wonder if he is an interchangeable factor in your love equation.
Synonymous phrases: “Don’t you love babies?” “Wouldn’t we have adorable kids together?” “If we had babies, would you be a man and take care of them, or would I have to bring your cheap ass on the Maury Show?”
Phrase three: “I’m sad all the time. When’s the last time you’ve been sad?”
Why would you want to set a negative tone for the initial conversation? One day, after you and your match have formed intimacy, you can delve into this topic, but on the first date, keep it light and fun and just focus on getting to know the other person.
Synonymous phrases: “I hate my Dad because after the divorce…” “Why don’t you tell me more about your Mom dying?” “I used to cut myself, but I stopped a month ago.”
Phrase four: “My last boyfriend…blah, blah, blah…”
Bringing up exes always pulls the conversation downward. If you say something negative about your ex, it will backfire on you because it shows 1) you aren’t over him 2) you take no accountability for the demise of your last relationship and/or 3) you are a bitter Betty. On the flip side, if you talk about how wonderfully large your ex’s penis is, your date and everyone around you will wonder why you were stupid enough to let him go. Shame, girl. Shame.
Synonymous phrases: “My last boyfriend…blah, blah, blah…” says it all, doesn’t it?