With the rise in TV shows about weddings, the general concept of “the wedding planner” is more widely known. Atlanta based wedding planner Tia Ervin, who is passionate about the whole wedding process, calls herself the “weducator” and makes it her mission to educate the bride and her inner circle about process of saying “I do.” Ms. Ervin who balances her family, full client load and as the Atlanta Chair of the Association of Certified Professional Wedding Consultants with grace met the Atanta Style Examiner at Starbucks on April 18, 2011.
ASE: Well Tia, it is so nice to met you. Thanks for taking the time to met with me.
Tia: My pleasure!
ASE: Your Twitter handle is “theweducator”, very catchy. How did you choose it?
Tia: Wedding planning is a highly charged process whether is a grand occasion like William and Kate’s or a small family gathering. Most couples understand that they are “marrying” the whole family but they don’t always understand that togetherness may start with the wedding planning. When a bride approaches me about planning her day, I ask her about her key influencers and invite as many of them to the initial consultation. It helps me understand the bride more and the people in her inner circle.
ASE: I admit I am a bit of a wedding show junkie. Why are so many epic battles between the bride to be and her mom?
Tia: 99% of mothers have an idea of their daughter’s wedding and some are more vocal then others. The bride is my client and so her needs come first. Of course I am sensitive to her mother and often her desire for more tradition. I find myself remind the mother that this is her daughter’s wedding. The more I get to know the bride and her mother the more I can find something to add to the ceremony that will be a nod to the mother’s desire for tradition AND incorporates the wishes of the bride.
ASE: The wedding dress decision can be a big tug of war between mom and daughter. How do you guide your bride to the right dress for her and her body type.
Tia: That is one of the reasons why I liked to be invited to the wedding process right after the engagement. If she tells me that she wants to get married on the beach in the sand then I would dissuade her from a heavy satin gown with 4 inch high stilettos.
There was an occasion where I was a DOC (Day of Coordinator) and I was taken aback by the bride’s dress. Her strapless dress was at least 2 sizes too small and I was constantly motioning to her to pull up the bodice.
It was a learning experience for me…not every bride is a good fit for me.
ASE: I am sure that was memorable for all the wrong reasons. So what is your favorite tavorite type of wedding to plan?
Tia: I really love high glam classy affairs. I would have love to have been a fly on the wall of Jay-Z and Beyonce’s wedding. I really think Jennifer Hudson’s wedding would a dream to plan. Nicole Ritchie’s wedding was more traditional than I expected but still fit her bohemian personality.
ASE: You can’t talk about platinum weddings without talking about William and Kate’s. I was a little girl when Diana married Charles and I was fascinated.
Tia: I do remember Diana’s wedding and I think Kate’s will be a lovely affair. They seem well suited to each other and genuinely in love. Diana and Charles barely dated while Kate and William met in college and cemented their friendship. I am really looking forward to seeing her dress and how they have merged the age old traditions with modern touches.
ASE: I am sure we will be talking about their wedding for years. Now how do you feel about William not wearing a ring?
Tia: I like that they are exploring their options. If Kate is ok with William being sans ring and we should all be ok with his decision. He proposed with his late mother’s ring and she said yes to him and the ring. She loves the color blue and it suits her well.
ASE: Jumping the broom the movie is coming out. How did you feel the jumping of the broom custom?
Tia: I feel like it is overdone much like lighting the unity candle. Couples include it in their ceremony without knowing the real meaning behind it. I really encourage couples to explore their relationship and find something unique. Mingling of the Water was a ritual that I created that was highlighted by Lifetime’s “Get Married with Colin Cowie”
I truly believe that every couple has a story and a special way of expressing their love…their ceremony should reflect that.
Tia Ervin is the founder of Milestone Occasions. Follow her on Twitter at @theweducator
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