In the past you reconnected with old friends at class reunions or run ins at the mall or movies. Today when people mention reconnecting it’s when they have activated their Facebook page. The question that has plagued many minds is, “Is Facebook appropriate for a married couple?” Unfortunately some are now divorces or soon to be and think Facebook is to blame.
The problem with some marriages is that they lack trust and have a great deal of insecurities. You add the constant friend request and you have a well fueled explosion. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two people. You vow to love, honor, and obey until death do us part.
Facebook, basically, is an internet based reality show. People plaster their lives on walls, not caring who sees, or who it may offend. Although a lot of negative behavior has happened while using Facebook, it’s still not the issue. It’s used for entertainment.
To be secure in yourself and your relationship is a marriage. Unfortunately, there are those who forget their vows and pursue a new sort of relationship via Facebook. Meeting someone new or rekindling an old flame among your Facebook friends is a decision not brought on by Facebook. They don’t control who you meet or what you post.
You can have a successful marriage and a successful Facebook page as well. Here are a few helpful hints to secure both.
1. When completing your profile, you should have nothing to hide. Make sure your status includes that you are married and to whom.
2. Your password should be private from the world, but not from your partner. (Not saying you should give it to them) Don’t have a separate computer account or only get on Facebook when they are not around. Knowing that they have the option to look can increase the security.
3. Old friends/New friends- If you feel something is inappropriate or getting out of hand you can always delete and block someone from your page.
4. And finally, keep it on Facebook. Exchanging addresses, emails, and phone numbers should be discussed with your partner beforehand.
A successful marriage depends on your faith and strength you have in your partner. To stay in touch or to meet new friends shouldn’t threaten your marriage. Would it be any different if they meet in a coffee shop or at work? Who or what would be the blame then? So everyone enjoy cyberspace, especially Facebook. There’s games you can play, photos you can upload and share. Don’t forget the many friends you can make or old friends you can meet again.