April 24, 2011 – This so-called infidelity app on iPhone, reported again today in the Daily Mail , is much ado about nothing. Tracking capabilities have been known for several years now. With just 3 in 100 women and 5 in 100 men who are unfaithful annually — according to the analysts at the National Science Foundation – married couples need not obsess about Internet infidelity hype. Furthermore award-winning marriage therapist and infidelity expert Michelle-Weiner-Davis said yesterday in the Providence Journal that even after infidelity, marriages can be saved.
Despite the media frenzy about privacy and having locations tracked, users do this routinely and appear to enjoy doing so as evidenced by Four Square’s success.
Peter Warden and his fellow researcher Alasdair Allan [who identified tracking the unfaithful] have set up a web page giving away a programme that lets Apple users check what location data their phone is storing. Other GPS-enabled smartphones do not have the same function, they said. What privacy concerns? iPhone users start posting secret data .
First the truth about infidelity
With such low rates of infidelity in this country, the “infidelity app” may be no more than “spin.”.
The annual rates for women who are unfaithful averaged 2.3 percent and the annual rates for men averaged 4.3 percent.
These figures were told to me by the head of one of the most respected sources for statistics in the nation — Dr. Tom W. Smith, internationally acclaimed expert and director of the Science and Culture section of the National Opinion Research Center (NORC) at the University of Chicago.
The National Marriage Project of the University of Virginia – examining NORC data – recently confirmed the figures noting that over a lifetime just 22 percent of men and about 15 percent of women engaged in marital infidelity.
Marriage therapist, Michelle Weiner-Davis
Michele Weiner-Davis (www.divorcebusting.com) has spent three decades working to bring couples to a more peaceful place. She believes that those who embark “on a path of reconciliation, no matter how bleak things might seem” can save their marriage.
She told me: “Couples don’t need to stay together and be miserable; they can actually fall back in love again once they learn new relationship skills. There’s cause for optimism.” Rita Watson: With work, even infidelity can be forgiven
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