Inside each and every one of us, is a tank. This tank has a gauge just like gas tank. The good news is, it doesn’t take $4 a gallon to fill it up. It is called our “Emotional Tank”.
Marriage counseling is a very good program recommended to all couples before and during their marriage. This is where I got the idea of the emotional tank.
Most marital success is because both parties have fairly full emotional tanks. Although each person has one, there is nothing we can do to keep it full or empty. That is our spouse’s job.
The things that are most important to you may not be as important to your spouse. This is why we are each responsible for having our own emotional tank. The trick is, allowing your spouse to know how to fill it up. You want to be a part of a marriage that you feel wanted or needed in. Humans need emotion. No matter how tough someone may seem on the outside, they need to have an emotional connection with their spouse.
What types of things fill your emotional tank? For her it may be spending time with her family or hearing you tell her she’s smart and witty. Women are also very affectionate creatures. They need to be loved on and held. When a man gives his wife a hug, it sends a message through her intricate head. It tells her you love her and are going to be there for her. Women also need romance. Buying her a candy at the gas station or writing her a note makes all the difference. Just showing appreciation and affection will keep her tank full.
For him, it could be allowing him to make the masculine decisions like fixing the car, or reminding him how much you appreciate him for working long hours to help support your family. Men are also very physical creatures. Therefore, sex is the thing that keeps their emotional tank full. (Big shocker there…) They need a regular sex life. Sex should never be given as a reward or taken away as punishment. This is a real issue in many marriages. The sexual union between a man and his wife will actually hinder a man from thinking straight, if it’s not healthy.
One of the secret’s to staying in love is making sure we are filling each other’s emotional tank. Remember, men and women are from two different planets so their needs will naturally be different. The key is finding the things that fill their tank; and keep it full. Either way, if you do a little digging you can figure out the things you each need and work together to bring the best out in each other and have a long healthy marriage.