You’ve always said that you’d have each other’s back but no one realized that when someone has your back you must ultimately have your own front. It is hard when you have been friends with someone for a long time and you can tell that they are headed for heart break. What do you do when you’ve been in a friendship with someone since grade school that will not listen to you even though they know that you’ve always had their back in the past?
Having a friend’s back is hard sometimes because you’re trying to warn them and most often they are so in love that either they can’t hear you or think that you’re being jealous. What they don’t realize is that it’s easy to spot the train when you’ve been on it yourself. More often than not most of us have already gone through some of the same situations that we see our friends go through. Since we now have a better view we try to derail our friends from heading down those very same tracks.
It’s been said that some lessons are better learned through experience. Most of us will admit that we’d rather not have gone through all of the pain we went through but in the end realize that there were some valuable lessons that were learned. Have you ever wished that you could’ve learned them another way? Was there someone there to tell you? If they were, did you listen?
The misconception is that friends always listen to one another. That’s not true. When our friends do not listen, we shouldn’t get mad at them because they didn’t. As a friend, we did exactly as we should. Some people learn at slower rates and others have to go through their own “Stove” experience. (Remember when your Mother told you that the stove was hot, but you didn’t believe her so you had to touch it yourself to see?)
We always want to shield our friends from unnecessary pain and maybe even destruction but sometimes you have to let them go. We should always offer to them better solutions to try and get them to see that the direction they are headed in is no place they really want to go. If they do, your job is to let them know that you’ll be there when all is said and done without an “I told you so”.
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