Dealing With Bullies: Staging a Social Revolt
The reason the bullies pick on you is because it increases their social standing within some circle. The fact that it lowers your own social standing is of little importance to them.
Staging a social revolt inverses this relation. In essence, making it un-cool to bully you, or, in some cases, anyone.
This takes a little bit of courage, and, often, some serious planning. Your revolt can often be augmented and enhanced by attaining leverage and using misdirection, can involve opening a dialog and, as a last resort, physical violence.
You can achieve a social revolt by exposing the bullies as being truly pathetic for picking on someone such as yourself, or, you can achieve a social revolt by increasing your social standing. In essence, you are fighting fire with fire – you are utilizing the bully’s tactics against them.
Regardless of how many friends or acquaintances a bully may seem to have, they achieve these acquaintances by fear and oppression, and, in nearly all cases, everyone around them is eager to watch them fall. You are also likely not their only victim and, attaining cohorts of your own for this task is not as difficult as you might think.
What many of us make the mistake of doing at times, is assuming that the world revolves around us and, that all the social rules are only pertaining to our own reality. Meaning that if we make a fool of ourselves, everyone will mock us, but failing to consider what would happen if someone else did the same thing.
A student was generally thought to be smaller and weaker than the other kids, and, when he was put into a soccer game with all the bullies, he decided that this would be a good time to make a non-socially-offensive stand against them; meaning that he would stand up to them under the context of a game, so that there would be no violent reprocussions from his actions, but, he would nonetheless benefit from standing up to them.
The bullies attacked him and he didn’t back down. They slammed into him, but, as there were teachers present, there could be no serious attacks, and, the student continued to get up and pressed forward, and continuously stood up to the bullies.
Unbeknown to the student, many students were watching from the classroom and, on that day, that student was noted as being indestructable, and cool. Just like that, his entire social standing was inversed. Note that the student didn’t need to “win” or “score”, all he had to do was persevere.
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Author of The Key to Awesome: The Step by Step Guide to Having an OUTSTANDING Life
- Dealing With Bullies
- Dealing With Bullies: Attaining Leverage
- Dealing With Bullies: Using Misdirection
- Dealing With Bullies: Staging a Social Revolt
- Dealing With Bullies: Opening a Dialog
- Dealing With Bullies: Physical Violence