What if single adults traveling through life were charged a fee for emotional “baggage”? With airlines tightening restrictions for carry-on items and measuring individuals’ luggage, perhaps singles should apply the same scrutiny to everyday worries or past regrets, learning to downsize, prioritize, and compartmentalize.
If a per-item fee could be assessed to people’s personal baggage, compounded over time as they travel from relationship to relationship or navigate career moves, parenting choices, partnering mistakes, etc., the budget-buster might bankrupt many singulars. Other penalties paid for ongoing stress show up in health reports, but people tend to feel pain in their wallet more than anything, so a “baggage” fee might wake up some single souls who roam the earth with unnecessary woes weighing them down.
Having carry-on items that can be stowed away but accessed at appropriate times is still allowed by the FAA, and seems reasonable for one’s intimate feelings, too. But, what selective items have been packed, and how well will they travel? Do some emotional items seem fragile enough to require other things around them, for insulation, thus taking even more room in one’s limited cargo space? Maybe airing out the old container once in awhile and dealing with the contents that have shifted will give fresh perspective, or at least a fresher scent, as new adventures unfold.
Perhaps the most overused term on dating web sites is “baggage”, as the dating world can seem like The Land of Misfit Toys. Bitterness or desperation do not play well in the dating game, and others will be quick to mention they do not seek anyone with large issues from their past. It sounds judgmental and condescending to state expectations of near perfection in another person’s life experiences, yet online daters often state in essays that people with more than carry-on baggage are not welcome in their life. So, what size is their carry-on, and what does it contain? Could someone have absolutely nothing to stow in cargo hold, yet carry-on a single alarming thing, in plain sight? Some travelers live openly with their foibles and hope others will deal with it from takeoff, while others may keep valuables undercover.
If everyone’s budget had to include taxes, duties, or fees applicable to emotional baggage, it’s likely that regrets and lovesickness and mourning and anger would be thrown overboard in short order. Learning, growing, and moving on could become a singular’s best accessories; thus, paying respect to one’s past, not paying dues on it.
A single thought: Bon voyage!
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