If you suspect that your spouse may be cheating on you, there are some sure signs that you need to pay attention to. Many times a suspecting spouse will avoid these signs because they want to give their partner the benefit of the doubt. That’s what happened to Sandra when she suspected that her husband was cheating on her. She kept talking herself out of the notion, going over other possible reasons in her mind for his suspect behavior. The truth was that Sandra missed some very distinct signs that she should have seriously paid attention to.
Here are 5 sure signs that you are married to a cheater:
-Cell phone secrecy. If your spouse holds onto the cell phone like it is gold, be suspicious. Cheaters guard their cell phones. Rarely will you see a cheater’s cell phone just lying around. It is always in pocket or in the cheater’s hand. If you ask to borrow the phone, a cheater will come up with an array of reasons why you can’t. A cheater will leave the room to talk or text. A cheater will also hide the bill, or get online statements that only he or she can access with a password.
-Unexplainable charges on the charge card. If you see charges on your charge card statement that make no sense, chances are your spouse is spending money on someone else. For example, if you see where your husband bought lingerie and you have yet to see it, chances are he bought it for someone else. If your wife paid for a motel room that you never stayed at, a red flag should go up.
-A noticeable change in your partner. These changes are usually in regard to looks. For example, if your husband who always wears t-shirts and dirty jeans starts looking like a G.Q model, pay attention…especially if this is coupled with a decrease in attention towards you. The same holds true for wives. If you notice your wife suddenly starts doing her hair, her nails, wearing sexy clothing, pay attention…especially if she is paying less attention to you. There is nothing wrong with a person making positive changes. When those positive changes are coupled with a lack of attention, this is a classic sign you may be married to a cheater.
-Emotional distance. A cheater will emotionally distance him or herself from you. This can be done by spending less time with you, lessening communication with you, picking arguments with you. The reason a cheater does this is because it makes it easier to justify his or her behavior. After all, if you all were closer, perhaps cheating would not be an option.
-A change in your sex life. This change can go either way. Sometimes a cheater will have sex with a partner more in an attempt to lessen suspicion. Sometimes a cheater will have sex less…especially if the affair has an emotional component. Another change to look for is an increased willingness to experiment. If you notice your spouse trying out new moves that have never been a part of your sex life before, this could be a sign that he or she is learning these moves from someone else.
Many signs of cheating are a bit ambiguous. The above 5 signs, however, make the certainty more sure that you have a spouse who is straying. If you still want some undeniable proof that you have a cheating spouse, check out one of Charlotte’s private investigators to help you.